Single Parent Families: Overcoming Against All Odds


Many single parents face a wide range of challenges:

  • Low income
  • Lack of available resources
  • Affordable childcare
  • Higher education costs
  • Balance between work and family

While single parent families have a lot to deal with, there are always people who seek single parent adoption. Adopting a child is a big step in any family, but it’s an even bigger step when someone does it alone. Entering the world of single parenthood isn’t easy, but it can be the most rewarding thing in someone’s life.

The Challenge of Adopting as a Single Person

The problem that many wishful single parents face with adoption is the discrimination of not being in a marital relationship. Most adoption agencies will turn to a couple wanting to adopt a child first, as opposed to a single person. The perception and the statistics show that single parents are less able to make ends meet and provide their children with the benefits couples can provide.

Unfortunately, the discrimination is what keeps many people from entering single parenthood. They become discouraged and give up because of the long waiting period, even though they yearn to become a single parent.





How to Overcome Against the Odds

If you are currently hoping to become a single parent to an adopted child, do not give up the fight. You can overcome the odds that are against you.

What adoption agencies want to see is a single parent that has reduced or eliminated the factors that put them at risk of not being able to provide for a child. So, if you don’t already have one, seek a degree. According to a recent College Board survey, individuals with a college degree are more likely to have a higher salary. A higher salary can reassure the adoption agency that you are able to provide the necessities a child needs since the raising of an average child in the United States can cost as much as $235,000

If you already have a degree, and your salary isn’t as high as you or the adoption agency would like it to be, seek a promotion within your current workplace or search for employment with a higher salary.

A consideration to have when looking for replacement employment or advancement is how conducive it will be to caring for a child. If you’re able to work while the child is in school, that would work out best. Adoption agencies do pay attention to this, so it’s important to be able to have a schedule in mind of how you will care for the child.

If you’re hoping to adopt a baby, searching for affordable and reliable child care options can be a great highlight to your adoption application. Again, having a plan in place shows the agency you are already committed to giving the child the best care possible.

It’s important to show the adoption agency that you can be a great parent because you’ve already researched the odds against single parenthood and have already fought against them. All you need is what they can give you – a child you can hold in your arms to love and care for, so he or she can grow up to be a responsible, important member of society.

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